While leaking pertinent and personal information on about either is skeezy and wrong, there is something supremely fucked up about outing a queer celebrity.*
Outing a person is not the same as fuzzy pictures of last night’s orgy or bad shots of lovers after a date. Outing a person is NOT the same as someone’s secret love child or affairs on set. Outing a famous celebrity is fucked up because not only is coming out a completely personal and sometimes time-sensitive subject, it has a lot to do with safety. Not just physical safety. Mental, emotional—if you can name it, coming out might have some effect on it.
It takes a special kind of jackass to out a celebrity and then try to justify that shit. Not only do you risk the chance of ruining this person’s career (unfortunately), you put them in a dangerous situation. Suddenly their bodies, minds, experiences, and decisions are no longer relevant. They do not have time to adjust to the sudden intrusion and opposition from all sides—how does their agent spin this, how does their manager work with this, how will their family react, what about the project they’re working on? They don’t know their fans—what if one reacts badly? Are they safe? Do they need more security?
Queer celebrities don’t owe you shit. They don’t owe you their safety, health, or their career. Painting them as hypocrites or liars because they’d rather consider themselves before your time table is fucked up and wrong. I’d be fucking damned if I’d ever surrender my livelihood because some fucktwit with a fucked up sense of Justice and Right decides to tell the whole world things I am not ready to tell myself.
There is nothing wrong with being in closet, especially when it comes to safety. Queer people deserve time, context, and confidence. They deserve to pick and choose people, places, times—-all that shit.
(*It should be noted that it’s fucked up to out ANYBODY, but seeing as I’m taking this from the Ellen Page affair, I’m using celebrities.)
- The FBI’s definition of “forcible rape” in their Uniform Crime Report (UCR): “The carnal knowledge of a female forcibly and against her will.” [PDF]
- What that definition leaves out: anal, oral and statutory rape; incest; rape with an object, finger or fist; rape of men
- Number of men raped in any year, according to the UCR: 0 [PDF]
- Estimated number of men actually raped each year, according to the Dept. of Justice: 93,000 [PDF]
- Number of women raped in 2007 under the UCR definition: 91,874
- Number of sexual assaults in 2007–which includes rapes the FBI leaves out–according to the National Crime Victimization Survey: 248,300
- Dept. of Justice estimate of how many women are actually raped each year: 300,000 [PDF]
- Number of arrests for rape in 2007 (UCR): 23,307
- Percentage of rapes that result in incarceration: 0.35 percent [PDF]
- Number of murders/manslaughters in 2007 (UCR): 17,157
- Number of arrests for murder/manslaughter in 2007 (UCR): 13,480
- Percentage of murders that result in incarceration: 20 percent or more [PDF]
- Average number of rapes to every murder committed annually: 5 to 1
- Two of the top five cities in the U.S. with the most “unfounded” (i.e., falsely reported, according to police) rapes: New Orleans and Baltimore
- Percentage of rape reports deemed “unfounded” by New Orleans police in 2008: 60 percent
- Percentage of rape reports deemed “unfounded” by Baltimore police in 2009: 32 percent
- Percentage of actual estimated false rape reports in any given year according to research studies: 2-8 percent
- Percentage of rape reports deemed “unfounded” by the FBI in 2006: 5 percent
- How Baltimore police once explained their “unfounded” rape rate: “One of the things we know is that victims do lie.”
- Percentage of rape reports deemed “unfounded” (i.e. falsely reported) by Philadelphia police in 1983: 52 percent
- The year Philadelphia was forced to clean up its rape reporting practices: 1999
- Percentage of rape reports deemed unfounded in Philadelphia in 2007: 10 percent
- What a Philadelphia police officer once called his city’s sex crimes unit: “The lying bitches unit.”
- “Reasons” women lie about rape, according to Philadelphia’s police department in 1984: revenge; free abortion; covering up truancy, pregnancy, infidelity, lost money, sexual precocity.
- Number of people who have signed a letter urging the FBI to change its definition of rape: 2,019 (and counting)
For more on rape in America, pick up the new issue of Ms. on newsstands now, or subscribe today to get Ms. delivered straight to your mailbox. Then head over to our No More Excuses! campaign headquarters to sign a letter urging FBI Director Robert Mueller and Attorney General Eric Holder to change the definition of rape.
They say: That 11-year-old girl had it coming. Those poor boys have to live with this for the rest of their lives.
I say: WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH THE WORLD?
THIS is rape culture. When a child needs to take responsibility for being gang-raped.“Where was her mother? What was her mother thinking?” said Ms. Harrison, one of a handful of neighbors who would speak on the record. “How can you have an 11-year-old child missing down in the Quarters?”
UM… WHERE WERE THE PARENTS OF THE BOYS AND MEN RAPING A CHILD? HOW CAN YOU HAVE A SON RAPING CHILDREN DOWN IN THE QUARTERS?
The author says the town is wondering “how could their young men have been drawn into such an act?” as if they were tricked into gang raping a child. Then there’s this quote: “It’s just destroyed our community,” said Sheila Harrison, 48, a hospital worker who says she knows several of the defendants. “These boys have to live with this the rest of their lives.”
Oh, the boys will have to live with this. Please, won’t someone do something to help the boys get through this!
MAYBE THEY SHOULD HAVE THOUGHT OF THAT BEFORE THEY GANG-RAPED AN 11 YEAR OLD GIRL
“They said she dressed older than her age, wearing makeup and fashions more appropriate to a woman in her 20s. She would hang out with teenage boys at a playground, some said.”
They’re making out like she was asked to be raped. The fuck? Any girl should be allowed to wear a short skirt without having to worry that they’re inviting others to gang rape them. All of this is really messed.
Rape culture :|
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